Well, that time of year has come and gone, again– Is your romance blossoming? Are you about to take the plunge into married life? If you are, congratulations! Although your single friends may have been sitting at home this Valentine’s day with a gallon of ice cream, resenting your budding romance, we’re here to applaud you – and as a belated V-Day gift to you, we’d like to debunk some marriage myths that have been circling around our bitter society lately:, the holiday of love, and then spring – the season of love.
1) Because of the increased life span on the average human being, marriages cannot realistically be expected to last as long as they used to (back when people thought smoking was good for your lungs).
FALSE! There is absolutely no real evidence to back up this claim. The main reason our has increased is because infant mortality rates have lowered over the past few decades. Also, because humans are aware of the increased life span, getting married later in life has become a trend. Taking time to get to know your partner for a longer period prior to marriage has shown an increase in sustained happiness in relationships. So don’t listen to your grandma when she tells you you’re getting old and should settle down – you’re in no rush!
2) Women with higher education are less likely to get married.
FALSE! How can anyone still think this is true? Female college grads are actually MORE likely to get married than their less-educated counterparts. In sum, smart girls really do get the guy.
All the fellas say, "whooaa!"
3) To get lucky in love, you really just have to be lucky.
FALSE! Studies show that the happiest couples consider themselves best friends who have sustained a solid, and share compatible values and interests.
Sharing hobbies (and bicycles) is a key element to a healthy relationship.
4) A marriage grows stronger with a child.
Well, this isn’t always necessarily true. Having a newborn addition to the family can put a lot of strain on couples. However, in the long run, studies do show that couples with children have a slightly lower divorce rate than couples with no children.
Who doesn't love a good baby?
5) Living with your partner before you’re married makes marriage less important.
Also, not necessarily true! Although some studies show that couples that live together before getting married have a higher chance of breaking up before their vows are actually spoken, getting to know your partner more intimately by shacking up can definitely help in developing intimacy and trust in the relationship.
Shacking up means you get to put your toothbrushes together like they're kissing. D'aww!
So, there you have it. Maybe Nana wouldn’t approve, but marriage and the rules surrounding it have definitely changed since she was ripe for romance. Don’t believe all of the negative statistics your bitter friends spew this time of year. Your love is unique and needs nurturing this spring. So don’t be afraid to take the next step!