Monday, November 8, 2010

Help! I’m the Maid of Honor… what do I do?

Being bestowed the role of Maid of Honor at your friend’s wedding is incredibly exciting. You’re totally honored that your friend cherishes you enough to want you to be a big part of planning and executing the greatest day of her life. But then – wait a minute – what are you actually supposed to do? How much planning is involved? How much time will you have to spend? Exactly how much is expected of you?

Depending on the bride, maids of honor may get a little work in the wedding planning department, or they may get A LOT of work. But here’s a quick list of the traditional duties of the Maid of Honor:

  • Help the bride pick out not only her wedding dress, but also the dresses of the bridesmaids. This can be a lot of fun – you get to go shopping with your best friend and help her try on and pick out beautiful dresses for all of you gorgeous gals involved in the ceremony. Plus, you’ll typically get to pick out your own dress. Pretty cool!
  •  Help the bride choose a location for the wedding. If the bride is already dead-set on a location, then you’re good to go. But if she isn’t, it’s always nice to tag along and scope out some beautiful ceremony spots. 
  • Keeping track of the guest list, invitations, and weddings favors are pretty hefty tasks. You don’t want to leave the bride hanging here. Together you can keep seat counts in check and assemble adorable favors for the guests. 
  • Sample wedding cakes! Often the groom likes to get in on this action as well, but you are also entitled to a little taste-testing. If the bride needs helps deciding on a caterer, you should also help by trying out some samples with her. This is a delicious duty – be excited. 
  • Arguably the most important task is planning the BACHELORETTE PARTY! It’s time to have fun, take a break from all the planning! There are plenty of websites available that can help you pick out party favors, cute games, and other sorts of party details. Have fun with this – the bride will appreciate your creativity and thoughtfulness.
  • On the day of the wedding, keep your cell phone on you – you’ll need to keep track of all members of the wedding party and make sure everything goes according to plan while the bride freaks out in her dressing room. 
  • You’ll also need to keep track of both the bride’s bouquet and the groom’s wedding ring. These are two insanely important pieces of the ceremony, and you should be so excited to be entrusted with such essential items! Keep them safe! 
  • Last, but certainly not least, as the Maid of Honor and best friend of the bride, you are expected to make a loving toast at the wedding reception. This is a great opportunity to congratulate your friend and share your happiness for her with the entire wedding party. Show them all what a great friend you are by telling that embarrassing story about that time you and the bride went to Vegas and… or maybe not.

It looks like a lot of responsibility, and maybe it is. But it’s a wonderful opportunity to play a huge role in the happiest day of the your best friend’s life, and she’ll never forget what a great job you did. Maybe she’ll even let you keep the duplicate wedding gifts! Free blender? Not bad.



  1. It stands to reason that if you are the Maid Of Honor then you are one of the bride's best friends. I would sit down with the bride to compile a list of tasks, in order of priority that she needs assistance with.

    She will really appreciate your help in lessening her load as the big days draws closer.

  2. Its true! Weddings tend to become a big, hectic mess for everyone involved so sharing the load helps.